Complicated Grief: When A Broken Heart Doesn't Heal
Grief is a natural response to the loss of someone or something that we love. It can be extremely difficult and affect us any many ways; emotionally, spiritually, cognitively and physically. There are many types of grief, and our grief journey is just as varied and unique. For most of us, over time, we can eventually accept our loss, process our grief, and find coping mechanisms to help us move forward and embrace happiness again. But for some, their broken heart refuses to heal and they remain engulfed in the acute pain of their loss. They are unable to find happiness in life or hope for the future. This is called complicated grief, and it is a cause for concern, often requiring treatment.
Reality of Grief and Hope Moving Forward
Most people know the stages of grief or have at least heard of them. These are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In a perfect world, we would move through these stages in an orderly and timely fashion and at some point, be “done” with grieving. The truth of the matter is there is no right way to grieve. There is no straightforward process. There is not an end where you think to yourself, “Okay, I am done grieving.” You may completely miss stages, revisit stages, or experience a stage that is not listed or known. We are all unique individuals. But, there is hope and you can find peace and healing.
Carrying Grief ... In The Trunk Of The Car
Grief is THE most complex, hardest to navigate; one step forward, three steps back… non-linear process we can go through as human beings. I tell myself, how fortunate I am to have experienced/be experiencing grief… because it means I loved beyond measure; and that’s what it is all about. But you want to know something? Death - the healing process - is hard. Strange. And weird. And something I’ve learned over the past 2 years? You can’t push someone to “be ready” to take the next step, feel a certain way, or grieve like you are.